Limbo

Jan. 5, 2010

At times I feel like I’m in limbo, I can’t really go out and flirt with dudes with my single friends, yet I can’t participate in the kids talk with the married friends. At the Chesterland Pub Crawl, two of my friends went to go hit on some Chesterland townies, I hung back to chat with Mr. K and CM. At dinner tonight there was much discussion of birthing hospitals and who has the best jumper playland near West Orange, NJ. I couldn’t really participate in either of the above activities. So instead I listen and take notes about how I can get a lobster dinner for two while I’m in labor, and who really does have the best jumper playland, since who knows this information may come in handy sometime in the future. I listen as the wife’s discuss schools, how their kids are developing what is normal and what is not. I also really do enjoy the hilarious “listen to what my child did today stories”. But as a side note I love my friends afterall variety is the spice of life, at least I think that is how the saying goes.

I began to notice that married couples with kids seems to choose their kids as the main topic of discussion. It’s funny and a common trend. I don’t think this is a bad thing – like I said its valuable information for me and my God willing future kids. Not to mention most of the stories are hilarious. At the same time I still, after I have had children, want to be able to do most of the things I do now, like traveling with or without the kids in tow.  Everyone says that once you have kids you whole life revolves around them and their needs, the parents lose their lives in the process. I want to fight that stigma. I want to have kids and still be able to go out, travel, and entertain. I know it’s doable, having dinner with two couples who both have three kids none of which attended the dinner proves it! Plus one of the main perks of having grandparents is so they can watch the kiddies, right???

January 7, 2010. kids. Leave a comment.